Have no idea what to do for the search, "match up pivot point" doesnt give me idea what to search... thanks anyway, i promissed to not bother anymore.
You can edit the pivot point of an object, and if you are using local transform coordinates, it will rotate around the pivot point, so you can rotate and move the pivot so it's facing the correct way, you can probably use the steering column to align it.
Ok, then set the transform coordinates to local, and then when you rotate the steering wheel, it should spin the same way as the game.
At the end my problem was pivot point pointing to wrong direction. Because that the steering wheel was not rotating correct. https://imgur.com/a/GxSdk2p